In today’s world, with so many different opinions of what’s right and wrong, what’s acceptable and not, it can be difficult to clarify your own personal boundaries. However, boundaries are important because they help to define your relationships, they create healthy interactions, they can help to prevent conflict, as well as protect you from feeling violated or taken advantage of. Here are 7 tips to consider.
1. Acknowledge your needs: Understand what specifically you need and what is important to you to make sure your life is healthy, balanced, fulfilled and meaningful.
Note to membership club members, please revisit your needs wheel and then watch the video on standards and boundaries for specific guidance. You will find this in the Self Discovery Library
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2.Clarify and write down your expectations, i.e. what’s okay for you and what’s not. Take time out to do this. It will be one of the best excercises you ever do!
3.Communicate your boundaries, clearly and calmly. You can do this respectfully, with the understanding that not everyone will like it, but if it will bring about positive change, stand your ground and allow your voice to be heard in a respectful way.
4.Set consequences: Decide what you will do if someone crosses your boundaries. If you accept inappropriate behaviour you can expect it to continue. You need to get clear and firm about what you’ll accept.
5.Say “no” when necessary: Don’t be afraid to say no to something that doesn’t feel right for you.
Note to club members, please review the video on ‘how to say no’ in the Self Dsiscovery Library for specific guidance.
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6.Prioritize self-care: Make time for yourself and practice self-care. When you do this, it gives you clarity and focus, so you can create positive boundaries that serve you.
7.Seek help: If you need help setting boundaries, don’t hesitate to reach out. There is no shame in improving your life.
It’s a positive thing to take ownership of your life and steer it in an empowering direction. Setting boundaries is a great start!
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