7 Tips to deal with people who don’t support your goals

Have you a goal or dream and although it excites you, it’s not being made easy by the lack of support around you? Below are 7 tips that might help you. This may take some practice, but it’s worth it. You are also welcome to download my FREE eBook here FREE eBook, if you haven’t already.

1.Respect their opinion but don’t become it. It’s important to respect the opinions of those who don’t support your goals, even if you don’t agree with them. Everyone has the right to their own opinions, and it’s important to keep in mind that their opinion is not necessarily wrong, it just might be different to yours, and that’s okay. The important thing is to take the emotion out of it and keep focused on the goal. Do not get distracted by opinions. Remember, the  thing that grows is the thing you give attention to.

2.Establish boundaries if needed: Setting boundaries can help you stay focused on your goals and protects you from negative emotions. If someone is over stepping the mark, let the person know your boundaries, and be firm in sticking to them. Of course, be respectful as you do this. Do you know what your boundaries are? If you haven’t identified and defined them, you need to, for the sake of your best life!

Note to my club members: Please watch the video on setting standards and boundaries for specific guidance on this. If you are not a club member yet, click DONNA’S CLUB for details

3.Listen to concerns if it could help, but do not get bogged down by them: Taking the time to listen to the concerns someone may have can be a great way of understanding their opinion and potentially finding common ground. It can also be useful to look for constructive observations as these can help you refine your strategy if needed and may help you make decisions..

4.Share your vision but do not walk into a lion’s den. It can be useful to explain why you are pursuing a goal and what it will mean to you to achieve it. It’s important to be open and honest with your feelings and why achieving your goal is important to you. However, importantly, do not have any expectation of support, interest or intrigue, and don’t share your goal with someone, if you know it will be trampled on. Your role is not to convince; there are plenty of people with similar visions to you that you can share your goal with. Sharing a vision is simply a way to convey your why and can help people you care about understand that you have a reason that matters to you. However, remember that it is YOUR why. Download this FREE eBook to help you understand the importance of visualisation. 

5.Focus on the positives and celebrate milestones: It can be easy to get caught up in the negatives of a situation, but try to focus on the positive elements of the goal and the progress that you have made. It’s really important to recognise and acknowledge your progress as it keeps you motivated and connected to what matters to you. When I am in the process of achieving a goal I like to reward myself as I achieve my little sub-goals along the way. I do not feel the need to broadcast it to the world, but I do find it a powerful motivating element of goal achievement that always spurs me on, especially in times of challenge.

6.Seek support from people with a similar mindset. As the saying goes, “Birds of a father flock together.”, and it is so true. It is no coincidence that people who think with a positive mindset hang out with people who think with a positive mindset. We do it intentionally as we know the power in it! It also helps keeps standards high and creates good energy around what you are trying to achieve. I am happy to support you with this, so if you feel you need more positivity in your life, let me know and I will see how I can best help you. See DONNA;S CLUB

7.Keep your goal clear and remind yourself of it often. I even use my screen savers to remind me to focus on my goal. Every time I open my phone, there it is! I set reminders during the day also. There are many strategies for this but make sure to implement reminders.

Note to my club members: please review the videos on the importance of Your Why and implementing reminders.

The key here is to value yourself enough that you allow yourself to be the best you can be. You must get intentional and purposeful about it. You are not here to settle, or compromise yourself and your happiness, you are here to reach your potential!